It is pouring here in NYC right at this exact moment. Boo.hiss. This week has been quite loverly. The weather is nice, my allergies are not acting out and I have been working diligently on my music stuff.
With all the good, last night before I went to sleep some thoughts popped into my head. If you don't mine, they are directed at a couple of folk...but it is stuff i need to get off of my "chest"
- So, I listen to you daily. I listen to you bitch and bemoan the fact that you are at this point in your life and you don't have a baby. Now, you have decided that you want to go the fertility route. It is all good and I firmly believe you gotta do you...at all times. But....uhhhruuuh, I just gotta ask you this....if your insurance isn't covering it and you really don't have the 17K to get the procedure done (this ain't counting the money needed to raise a sucka once it gets here.) why are you pushing to go through this? Granted, i live on a whim and a prayer...more prayer than whim, and God always seems to have my back...but this is a little insane. Plus, you live with another relative and their child in a 1 bedroom. How are you going to work that out? Cause....once you get preggers...movin' ain't really in the equation.
- You know men like you really irritate me. Not really make me sick, but you do not hold up to the stereotype of a real man. Then again maybe you do. You did the tackiest sheoyt ever. Why would you send me a meme with an answer hidden b/w the lines that you are "engaged'? Hmm...tacky boo, extremely tacky. ESPECIALLY since like a week prior who were trying to get me to fandangle a romp in the hay with you. *shaking my head* Men like you make me sick. Men like you make me disgusted. Men like you...can sometimes disrupt my thinking and have me feeling like all men are no good...then i grab some common sense back and say..that is bull and there are good, God fearing men out there. I wish you the best on your soon to be nuptials, but boo bear...back up offa me...oh, and lose my number. I have lost yours.
- Hmmm...lemme break you offa piece of knowledge... You my boy and all, but that ain't gonna happen. You know that thing you been trying to get me to weasel out of my girl? It ain't gonna happen. Lemme tell you why...1. you married *sigh*. 2. wifey is preggers with the newest addition. 3. my girl gotta man now...even though you tried to cock-block. I mean you know I love you...and your wife....your legal married by our minister wife. Your wife who would break yo' neck if she knew you were crushin' like this on our girl. Ain't gonna happen. Plus, b/w your wife and my girl's man....it would be an ugly scenario.
- Look...this is all I am going to say...and I shouldn't have to think it out like this, but I gotta. When someone supports you when you are at your lowest. When you have lost your job. When you have to take a medical leave. When you have done some crazy things and I am still in your corner. You of all people should have been at my recital. You shouldn't have heard about it from mutual friends. You said, "You have nothing to say." You are right, I don't...that was tired and shady of you. Your excuse like all the rest of the people who said they were coming and didn't...was lame.
- Oh...I almost forgot...and don't text me the day after my concert asking me..."how was your show?" Tired and tacky. If you wanted to know, you would have been there. And for clarification...it wasn't a show...for classical singers, it is called a recital. Show is for pop singers who get up and dance, shake their ass...gyrate around the stage...act like horses asses...that is a show. I did a recital. I wore a gown...had a classy atmosphere. Here is a link for you via wiki. I had a performance of African American Art Songs and Spirituals. Music written by composers who look like you and me. Granted, you probably don't care for classical music, but it was something really great and special. Something that people of color don't do on the regular. Something that I thought you might be kind enough to support me in doing. Don't text me the next day thinking that is an appropriate time. It isn't. It is tired and tacky...oops am I repeating myself.
- Lissen...lemme explain something to you. You have no RIGHT to say something to me about me getting here. I am here before my 15 minute grace period is up. I do my job...tolerate the tomfoolery...listen to you talk about nonsensical things. DAILY. You on the other hand, my dear fair...handmaiden (note the sarcasm)...you get here when you feel like it and cut out when you feel like it. Now...how does that look? Shady chile...straight up shady. So, my response to you is...Leave me alone.
- It is bad enough there are horrible stereotypes about people who live in Harlem and the hood. You are filling a big one when you put your daughter's pacifier on a GOLD chain.. Jeeze Monetty. Did you not notice how horrified we all looked when we realized that your baby had a Gold chain and pacifier around her neck? Just wake up boo...WAKE UP!!
Rules:
People who are tagged write a Blog post about the most recent circumstance, and post these rules.
At the end of your post you need to tag 8 people and include their names.
Don't forget to leave a comment on their Blog and tell
them they've been tagged, and to come back and read your Blog for the
whole story.
1. Who called you most recently?
Elliott to fuss.
2. What was the most recent sports game you watched?
Uhh...it has been a minute.
3. Who is your most recent friend?
Bridget
4. What was the most recent TV show you watched?
Grey's Anatomy
5. What was the most recent music that you purchased?
tomorrow...the roots
6. What were the most recent clothes that you purchased?
2 skirts...one green and the other white with orange and yellow dots...
7. Who did you most recently say, "I love you" to?
James
8. Who did you most recently text?
Calvin
9. Who did you most recently kiss?
Dimples
And I hate tagging....so anyone can take this. LOL
Got this from one of my favorite beauty bloggers a long time ago.
Thing’s I’m Passionate About (not in any particular order):
- God
- Food
- Family
- Music
- Beauty Products
- Shoes
- Life
Things I want to do before I die:
- Go to South Africa...
- Get married and have babies
- Have a major opera career
- Experience grandchildren
Things I say often:
- I'll be damn
- Damnit to hayle!!
- That is a hot stinkin' mess.
- Quit playin'!
Books I’ve recently read:
- How to get around Greece
- Big Boned - Meg Cabot
Songs I could listen to over and over:
- With these Hands - Les McCann
- Stronger - Kanye West
- Time after Time - Cassandra Wilson version
- Comes to the Light - Jill Scott
- Whenever You're Around - Jill Scott
- Get Me Bodied - Beyonce
Things that attract me to my best friends: (100% same as Shannon...)
- Humor
- Sarcasm
- Kindness
- Honesty
- They love me with all my flaws
Earlier this month, my church celebrated its 200th anniversary by performing a mass that Wyn.ton Mars.alis' wrote. The music was spectacular, the orchestra was phenomenal....and I was musically revived.
The even better part...I realized that just because someone says they are your friend, doesn't mean they really are. It most times is a rouse to get something that they want or need. That is cool too...and it is even cooler that I have to let you go. I support you....I feel that you should support me. Just common courtesy. But...I will say, I did ask for clarity and God granted it. LOL
So...as April comes to a close, I am so grateful....so blessed...so excited for what is to come.
- My Foundation: MAC cover up with MAC Mineralize powder
- My Mascara: Mizani plush mascara for 2 coats, then covergirl lash blast for about 4 or 5 coats
- My Blush: MAC fleur power with honesty over it
- My Eye Shadow: MAC pigments and shadows
- My Day Cream: The Body Shop Vitamin E night cream...yes in the day.
- My Lipstick: MAC Lipglass....any color or Mizani Bronze
- My Beauty Product Brand: MAC
- My Essential Beauty Product: Clinique Even Better...skin tone corrector
- My Perfume: Bvlgari Rose Essentille
- My Nails: Essie or OPI
- My Feet: Carol's Daughter Sage and Shea Foot Butter
- My Hands: Carol's Daughter Lemon and Rose Cream
- Three Products to bring on a deserted island: Sunblock with SPF 50, carmex, Aveda Conditioner
- Woman I admire for their beauty: my mother and Jill Scott
- Woman with the Best Sense of Style: Iman
- My Ultimate Dream (but I do not believe in selling my soul to the devil for it): Being able to do whatever I want whenever I want–whatever that may be at the given time.
- How Do I Define Womanhood: Womanhood...hmmm...being comfortable in your own skin and loving yourself with all your quirks, bad points, et. al.
We still have a choice today: nonviolent coexistence or violent coannihilation. We must move past indecision to action. We must find new ways to speak for peace in Vietnam and justice throughout the developing world, a world that borders on our doors. If we do not act, we shall surely be dragged down the long, dark, and shameful corridors of time reserved for those who possess power without compassion, might without morality, and strength without sight.
Now let us begin. Now let us rededicate ourselves to the long and bitter, but beautiful, struggle for a new world. This is the calling of the sons of God, and our brothers wait eagerly for our response. Shall we say the odds are too great? Shall we tell them the struggle is too hard? Will our message be that the forces of American life militate against their arrival as full men, and we send our deepest regrets? Or will there be another message -- of longing, of hope, of solidarity with their yearnings, of commitment to their cause, whatever the cost? The choice is ours, and though we might prefer it otherwise, we must choose in this crucial moment of human history. - from Beyond Vietnam -- A Time to Break Silence
I feel that Steve Harvey said it best this morning...Dr. King was not killed because of what he was doing, but because he was part of a race that is so hated. Not because of something we have done, but just because people have been taught that we are lower class, not really smart and shouldn't have thoughts on things. Because being black is a bad thing.
I pray that somehow as a race we can get our act together and become the strong people that people knew that we could be. I pray we stop tearing ourselves down and learn the only way we can progress is to become a united front.
In the words of Stevie Wonder.....
What Shampoo brand do you use?
Mizani
What Conditioner do you use?
Mizani or Profectiv
Do you use a flat-iron daily?
I haven't used a flat iron since about my junior year of college...and that is forever.
What styling products do you use?
I use IC Hair Shine and HRT hairspray by Mizani
Do you prefer your hair to be up or down?
In between, which it is right now. The front out...and the back pulled up.
Is your hair long or short?
In between, but since it isn't really thick at all...it doesn't look like i have much going on. LOL
Do you dye your hair?
No, but i need to. I am suffering from grey hair
Do you use the same color, or do you experiment with other colors all the time?
N/A
Do you wear make-up?
WHAT???? Okay this question is ludicrous.
What brand of foundation do you wear?
Either Clinique or MAC.
What brand of Mascara?
Covergirl. My favorite is Lash Blast.
Do you wear eyeshadow?
HUNH?? My eyes are my favorite part of my face...duh...yea.
What brand?
Majority is MAC, but I will wear some Bobbi Brown or some Laura Mercier
What color blush do you wear?
My favorite is Fleur Power by MAC, but right now I am diggin' Fashion Frenzy from the Fafi line.
Lip stick or lip gloss?
Lip Gloss. I am the biggest fan of MAC's LipGlass. I don't care for the Lustre Glass that much...but I will use it when I am crackin'. I also love the Liplicious from Bath and Body Works.
If the answer is gloss, what flavor?
LOL Flavor? LOL MAC is flavorless...but Liplicious...hmmm.... I love the Hot Cakes, Candy Apple and Grape Soda. Yummy.
What kind of cleanser do you use?
Do you use the Biore pore strips?
Newp
Are your nails natural or fake?
Natural. Boo hoo.
Long or short?
Short
What color do you normally paint your nails?
Yes Something pinky or coralish. Always in the pink family.
Do you get manicures often?
Not often enough.
What about pedicures?
Yes, yes and more yes.
Do you paint your toenails?
Sometimes.
What color?
See above.
What is your normal style?
Casual.
What is your favorite brand of clothes?
I love Tahari and Baby Phat. I never thought I would be one to love Ki.mora's clothes...but they are low cut enough in the cleavage area and make me happy. LOL
Where do you normally shop for clothes?
Macy's and Ashley Stewart lately or someone sews them.
Do you like to dress up, or are you more casual?
I LOVE dressin' up.
Do you wear a belt with all of your pants?
No, I am high waisted.
Do you like flared leg pants?
flared...newp.
Do you wear shorts in the summer?
Not in public, my thighs are too huge.
How about tank tops?
All.the.time. even though I think my arms are too fat. LOL
How many pairs of jeans do you own?
About 8 or 9 pairs. Majority are wide leg and boot cut....but I have a pair that i love that are just stretchy enough to make me look like i have a bootay.
How many pairs of shoes do you have?
At last count it was 125...yes, I admit that, but I think there might be less. Then again...it might be more.
Would you wear a pair of shoes that hurt your feet because they are too cute not to wear?
I do that every now and again....lol, they fit but the heel height...hoo.boy.
Are you a flip-flop lover?
Helllllllllllloooo…I am an au natural girl...despite the outside glam ROTFL
What about stilletos?
I am barely 5'4.5" and I like SUPER TALL MEN. Hell yea....3.5"+ the better. LOL
What size shoe do you wear?
10.5
Do you own a lot of dressy shoes?
More dressy than anything else.
Do you own any Mary-Janes?
High heeled yes.
What is your favorite accessory?
My gold coptic cross and the charm bracelet from the dad.
Do you have a lot of jewelry?
I don't think so.
How many pairs of sunglasses do you own?
Too many, but I normally just wear the Versace's...which are incognegro at the moment.
Don’t you just love the big sunglasses?
Yes, makes me feel very glamorous.
Do you wear earrings daily?
OMG...yes. I feel nekid.
What about necklaces?
Yes, I have on something around my neck...dropping into my cleavage. LOL *ahem* LOL
Rings?
Usually. Today no.
Bracelets?
I own lots of bracelets, but I want lots more. I love bracelets.
How many watches do you own?
Too many. I am a Swatch and Fossil fan.
Do you wear a watch daily?
YES, YES AND MO' YES. I have a time issue.
How many purses do you have?
LOL *ahem* I shan't confess my sins. LOL
Do you switch purses often?
Yea.
Does your wallet have to match your purse?
Sometimes, depending on the purse
Are your purses the huge ones, or are they smaller?
There is an even mix. LOL
I am tired...so beware of anything. *snickering*
- I am so tired, I just wanna slap someone. Why you ask? I gotta recital, I am rehearsing for this shin-dig that my church is doing with Jazz @ Lin.coln Cen.ter...and just life in general.
- I have a guilty pleasure...Real Housewives of the OC, but right now Bravo got Real Housewives of NY. OMG...too fast and a ball of hot Crisco. Whew. There is one chick Jill...she has this feisty ass chihuahua....Jill let's that dog lick the boogies out of her nose. *leaning over my desk puking* I am done. My girl is the Countess though...thanks for showing folks with a real family life.
- We are getting a new secretary at the office. Love, love her. Great personality, also a singer, but she seems sane. *praying* Thank you Jesus.
- My Mr. Sexy is about to be in a bit of a bind in a minute. Right now I need some attention and he is going through one of his selfish moments. I wish some men would understand, women are busy as well, but we make time. If you want to be with us...you gotta make time as well.
- Speaking of men, one of my girls had me about 2 seconds from peein' on myself this morning. She reaches out and says..."Girl, it was a night for the books last night." Her hubby hurt himself while out hanging with the boys. He thought he had broken a part of his anatomy. LOL He was rolling around in excruciating pain to where he suggested she call the ambulance. *pausing for hysterical laughter on my part* Okay...all back, so she said..."I looked at him like...are you for real, real?" he was...she called 911 and all they said was that he needed to put some ice on the injury. ROTFLMAO Hmmmm...and men are the stronger sex? Whatevaaaah.
- My other reality show vice...High School Confidential. It is the story of 12 girls through 4 years of high school. I can't even IMAGINE seeing myself on video tape from high school. I was a special seed..... Antyway, this weeks episode finally had the one sista on it. I was just sitting there in tears near the end of the episode when it talked about how she lost her dad during her senior year of high school. *taking a moment* Watching it made me feel like I had lost my dad all over again. The clincher was when her mother said..."My happily ever after is now over. I thought it would be forever." *sigh* I respect men who love their wives like he loved his wife. Thirty-two years...mad respect.
- Am I the only person who gets annoyed with the Firefox's auto spellcheck? Usually it doesn't bother me....lately...i want to cuss it out. I am going to chalk it up to skraight up exhaustion.
- We have a senior partner in our office who spends most of his time at home. Since he does...he worries the dickens out of all of us who are here at the office. I am the ONLY one who will answer his calls, so it is like I have become his personal secretary. Not cool dude. Not cool at all.
- Everyone who knows me I am an Obamaite. I am so proud of this articulate(it is okay...i am a black woman saying that) knowledgeable brother. I am also proud of the people of color who are voicing their opinions on this wonderful candidate for president. Alic.e Walk.er had her views posted on The Root. Go read them here.
- There is nothing as horrible in this world like a short man who doesn't take suggestions well...and is so cocky he looks like an a-hole.
- I think I need to go to bed early tonight. The more I look at this list, the more assholic i feel. *snickering*
- I was sent this in an email...what do you think?
- My big sis just emailed this to me...'Never allow someone to be your Priority while allowing yourself to be their Option' Enough said.
Happy Thursday
on I give you thanks...